18 January 2018
A juvenile delinquent dog or the price of adulthood
When your teenage son or daughter is brought home in a police van, this is not usually an occasion to celebrate and you fervently hope none of the neighbours noticed. When the same happens to your adolescent dog, you find it amusing -to say the least- and you enjoy telling the story in full detail.
So we found it quite hilarious when a police officer led Django to our front door, meek as a lamb. Mister Django had only recently discovered and 'sampled' the females of his kind - to his great appreciation -, and he had been out looking for more. He had found the weak spot in our garden fence and gone off exploring.
When seen from his perspective, you cannot really blame him. Even I sympathise that as a living creature he wants to move freely just like us humans. He had already escaped a few times that week, but had always come back of his own accord. But that day he hadn't, and my search in the neighbourhood turned up nothing.
Finally it appeared that he had been 'paying a visit' to people in the next street, who also have a dog. They didn't know him, so had called the police who could trace him back to us through his chip implant. We got away with a warning and have promptly mended the gap in our garden fence.
The incident reminds me of how organised and controlled we adult humans really are, and how we desperately try to contain everything within certain limits. This is not how we come into the world however. Until the age of four, children are convinced of their own strength and heroism (I know this for a fact, with a grandson of that age who is wonderfully inspiring) and often childhood is a time of a careless freedom and endless possibilities. It is not really surprising that as adolescents we start a final rebellion as if we are perfectly aware of what awaits us in adult life.
When we reach the age of adulthood we seem to have internalised all those responsibilities, expectations and limitations - in what is called adult and responsible behaviour. As if the free creatures that we once were are forgotten. When we do not find a balance in this, the price to pay can be high.
In my coaching practice I meet quite a few people who struggle with this. This translates into feelings of not being 'enough', of being scared and feeling locked up, in often unwittingly wanting to comply to certain standards and expectations.
As coach I can help you to find back the light and strong person within yourself and to create a beautiful balance between the lightness of your inner child and the maturity of your grown-up self.
It is up to you to take the first step and all the following ones. I realise that this takes a lot of courage and investment in yourself. But the result is priceless. Read the testimonials of a few clients on this website to feel what a coaching journey can do for you. A sample session is free, with the additional bonus of a warm welcome by Django at the front door.
Ancient Wisdom as a vaccine
In De Standaard of 21 April (one of the major local newspapers) there was a beautiful article entitled "Art as a vaccine in the post-corona era". Why wait for that post-corona era? Yesterday the parable "This too shall pass" ended up in my mailbox.
28 April 2020
The invisible dog or how being hard headed does not pay off
"Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results”. Humans excel in that. We somehow believe that if we keep trying harder we will ultimately succeed, even if we keep ending up with the same result, time and time again.
2 November 2018
From King of the Mountain to Swimming Champion
23 August 2018
What if email, mobile phones and social media did not exist?
12 July 2018
Don’t make change too complicated. Just begin.
14 June 2018
Why not take a mini-holiday
10 May 2018
Lost in deconstruction
"You need chaos in your soul to give birth to a dancing star" [Friedrich Nietzsche]
19 April 2018
How Dog had a breakthrough – a contemporary fable (part 2)
15 March 2018
How Cat & Dog should follow the example of Mouse, a contemporary fable
15 February 2018
Winter’s life lesson
21 November 2017
Lessons taught by wild geese
16 November 2017
Who is the King of Creation?
What if things were different from what we have always assumed? It can make you feel very unsafe to question your normal perspective. On the other hand it also offers incredible freedom and creativity to step outside the beaten track and become curious.
19 October 2017
From prey to predator and vice versa
From prey to predator and vice versa, the natural order put upside down. The animals themselves do not seem to be bothered by it - for sure Django isn’t, and the hens appear to find it quite normal to be on top of the food chain.
5 October 2017
How is your Monkey Mind?
We all have a Monkey Mind, Buddha said, with scores of monkeys, all demanding attention. The fear monkey is the loudest of them all, he is constantly ringing the alarm bell, drawing our attention to things we should be wary of and to everything that can go wrong.
21 September 2017
The parable of the businessman and the fisherman
We always have a choice: do we listen to our sabotaging inner voices or do we opt for what we really want, like the fisherman?
24 August 2017
Mr Goldberg and his assumptions
It is worthwhile to take a closer look at the assumptions you have about the persons with whom you have a relationship. You could develop the habit to ask yourself if a certain assumption is really true. And what if it is not?
10 August 2017
Asking for help is something we struggle with and we will only ask when we have no other option. We believe that asking for help and putting ourselves in a vulnerable position is a sign of weakness. Asking for help creates a warm connection between the asker and the giver.
20 April 2017
What if ....?
What if you would use a different perspective to look at what you have always assumed to be the objective reality? Does objective reality as such even exist?
9 February 2017
Frieda just asks
Asking for help is something that is hard to do for a lot of us. Self-reliance and autonomy are highly respected in our individualistic society. Another aspect of asking for help is that we build up a 'debt' as it were, We also do not like to disturb others with our problems
18 February 2016