19 October 2017

Who is the King of Creation?

Though it happened a few times in the last days, I wasn’t entirely sure. It was only now, during our last walk, that it became so obvious I can no longer ignore it: instead of me training Django, it is him training me sometimes. And there I was, thinking I was his owner!

I can almost see his mind at work: “Mmmm, I feel like a treat. Let me give my owner a friendly command. I will walk to her left, nice and close and then I will look up to her lovingly and make eye contact. And bingo – there goes her hand, into her pocket, and here comes the scrumptious dog biscuit. She did that so well. Maybe I should repeat it a few times so she gets the hang of it. These humans are so easy to train, so much easier than that cat of mine. Let alone the hens.”

All joking aside, I sometimes really think that we humans fool ourselves. Thinking we are the King of Creation and that sort of stuff – we really are not. Another example: all those nice lawns everywhere, numerous acres of land covered in a small green plant that managed to convince humans to cultivate it carefully, fertilise it, free it from moss and other competitors, cut it nicely every week during spring and summer and even sprinkle it! Thanks to humans, this plant has done quite nicely and has even conquered the world.

We are so used to contemplating the world from our own familiar perspective and do not look beyond what we were taught at school and elsewhere. The “what if” question comes to mind again – I wrote about it in a previous blog post.

What if things were different from what we have always assumed? It can make you feel very unsafe to question your normal perspective. On the other hand it also offers incredible freedom and creativity to step outside the beaten track and become curious.

I spontaneously think of Albert Einstein, a scientist who is a figurehead of this attitude. In the meantime we all know where it led him and us. Artists in all kinds of disciplines are another category of people who cultivate this ability to think and act in a radically different way.

What I’m getting at is that each of us can do this, if we are willing to let go of the familiar. At the end of the day, it is about making choices – choices that are life confirming instead of life diminishing. For quite a number of people who start a coaching journey the key question is: how can I live and work in a way that is more confirming and liberating than diminishing?

This brings me to another matter: I truly enjoy writing my blog articles and find a lot of satisfaction in inspiring other people. The frequency of these bi-weekly blogs is starting to become hard and somewhat limiting – I have so many other projects ongoing. So with some regret I have decided to write and publish a new article once every month. I have a few loose ideas to treat you to alternative inspiration in-between, but I need some time to think it over.

Who is the King of Creation?

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